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Benedicta Grey is the mother of Lord John Grey and his older brother, Hal. She was widowed twice, and married her third husband, Sir George Stanley, in 1758.

Personal HistoryEdit

Born a daughter of the Armstrong family, she married her first husband, Captain DeVane, at the age of fifteen, and had two sons by him, Paul and Edgar. Widowed at age twenty, she met her second husband, Gerard Grey, Earl of Melton, a year later.[4] She had two sons by Grey, Harold and John. Her second husband died in an apparent suicide, and she did not marry again until her children were quite grown, to Sir George Stanley. She lives in Jermyn Street in London.

Lord John SeriesEdit

Lord John and the Private MatterEdit

Benedicta hosts a musicale at her house in Jermyn Street, which is attended by Captain Stephan von Namtzen, Graf von Erdberg.

Lord John and the Brotherhood of the BladeEdit

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Physical AppearanceEdit

Benedicta has pale blue eyes and fair hair.


  • Benedicta is the feminine form of the late Latin name Benedictus, which meant "blessed".[5][6]
  • Armstrong comes from the Old English earm and strang, meaning "strong arm".[7]
  • DeVane is an Irish name originally written in a Gaelic form as O Daimhin, derived from the word damh, which refers to "an ox" or "a stag".[8]
  • Grey has two possible origins: 1) an Anglo-Saxon, Old English nickname for someone with grey hair or a grey beard, derived from the Old English pre 7th Century word "graeg", grey; 2) from the place called "Graye" in Calvados, Normandy, so called from the Old Gallo-Roman personal name "Gratus" meaning "Welcome" or "Pleasing", with the suffix "acum" meaning settlement or village.[9]
  • Stanley is from a place name meaning "stone clearing" in Old English.[10]


  • Benedicta wears a lily of the valley scent.[11]


  1. Gabaldon, Diana. "Lord John's Brothers-possible spoiler." MSG: 58458.2. Diana Gabaldon. Books and Writers Community. Compuserve. Published 7 January 2008. Accessed 26 August 2015. 
  2. Age as of the end of Written in My Own Heart's Blood.
  3. Lord John and the Private Matter . Benedicta is described as "several inches shorter than her youngest son," who is about 5'6".
  4. Gabaldon, Diana. "ECHO: Dottie and Henry." MSG: 66117.30. Diana Gabaldon. Books and Writers Community. Compuserve. Published 24 December 2009. Accessed 1 December 2017. 
  5. Behind the Name: Benedicta. Accessed 10 May 2016.
  6. Behind the Name: Benedict. Accessed 10 May 2016.
  7. Behind the Name Surnames: Armstrong. Accessed 10 May 2016.
  8. House of Names: DeVane. Accessed 31 May 2016.
  9. Internet Surname Database: Grey. Accessed 19 June 2014.
  10. Behind the Name Surnames: Stanley. Accessed 03 June 2016.
  11. Lord John and the Brotherhood of the Blade, chapter 11.

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